All you ever wanted to know about me and my work in a 30-minute TV show

Well, perhaps not all you've ever wanted to know, but close.  What surprising things does a doula do at a birth? Doesn't a dad feel left out when a doula is present? How did an English doula and childbirth educator end up in Racine? What happens when someone who attends a natural birth class doesn't have a natural birth? What kind of crazy person shows up for a TV interview with a model pelvis and a grapefruit, anyway?

 

This is the conversation that happens when I sit down for half-an-hour with someone I've just met who's only just learned what a doula is. Thanks to Jessica Tighe for having me on the show. Look out too for my lovely clients Molly Ewing, Stephanie and David Raszkiewicz, making me blush with their fine compliments. My dear colleague Dana Moore of Beautiful Beginnings makes an appearance, and a few other clients and colleagues flash past too.

 

The show aired at 6.30am on a Saturday (27th July, 2013) -- so for you sleepyheads who missed it at the time, now's your chance! Grab a cup of tea, sit back and have all your questions answered!

 

PART 1: Intro

 

 

 

PART 2: What's new about the childbirth classes I'm offering in Racine?

 

 

 

PART 3: Does a doula make a difference?



 

 

PART 4: There's a doula for everyone!



 

I was so blessed to have this opportunity and so thankful to be accompanied to the TV station by such a lovely crew of supporters/fellow guests who "doula-ed" me through what could have been a nerve-wracking experience. With two big beautiful pregnant bellies, a breastfeeding mama, a new papa and a seven-week-old-baby by my side, I had enough oxytocin to get me through anything! (By the way, the seven-week-old doesn't appear on screen, but did you hear her getting her word in? So sweet.)

Stumped on a baby name?

Check out my first ever video blog post!

Watch, enjoy and be easy on me! Then get in touch and let me know what other topics you'd like to see me cover. I have some good 'uns up my sleeve, but I don't know if they're the ones you would choose unless you tell me! This is a great chance to pick my childbirth-educator-brains on the subject of your choice, for FREE.

Can't wait to hear from you at info [at] godsib [dot] net.

The Pros and Cons of Everything

 Well, almost everything. That's what is offered at ProCon.org, a serious and interesting website which aims to promote "critical thinking, education, and informed citizenship by presenting controversial issues in a straightforward, nonpartisan, primarily pro-con format."

The Health & Medicine section might be of greatest interest to my readers. Among other things, it contains a page on children's vaccinations with a huge array of information.

Beyond specific content, this is also a useful site for those thinking more about how we make decisions -- a skill transferable across the whole spectrum of life's questions. So the page "Golf: is it a sport?" might be just as useful.  :)

Is ignorance bliss?

Source

A surgeon's skilled hands may make the difference between life and death.

But a survey commissioned by the American College of Surgeons finds that, on average, a person expecting to undergo surgery spends less than an hour researching their surgeon or the procedure.

A new car requires eight times as much research, apparently. Huh. Source

Choose well

Several times a week as I whiz down I94, I pass an advertizing billboard with this slogan on it. "Choose well," it advises simply, next to the logo of a big local hospital. The implication is that if you're sensible you'll decide to go there next time you are in need of hospital care.

This ad is clearly targeted to people like me for whom informed decision-making is an important part of life, and it got me thinking. It's clever, because "choose well" has several implicit meanings, including "make a choice carefully", "choose to be well" and "choose the best". The conflation of these different meanings in the ad implies is that a good choice is interchangeable with a particular selection: if you choose well, you'll choose us, of course!  The slogan thus becomes a wolf in sheep's clothing, solicitation in the guise of informed decision-making.

This ad has the same undertone we sometimes experience in our encounters with medical caregivers, too -- not just when we drive past their billboards. "You'd be smart to... [let me induce you at 40 weeks/consent to the amniocentesis/come to the hospital as soon as labor starts]" implies, "You wouldn't be smart if you didn't." 

Worse, we sometimes simply hear the caregiver speak of his or her plans to treat us, as if our thoughts and feelings were not a factor at all. The thought seems to be that if we have the opportunity to object and do not, that fulfils the requirements of shared decision-making. At the other end of the spectrum, a medical caregiver may act as a partner, presenting us with a list of options with their accompanying risks and benefits, and allowing us space to make decisions ourselves. Here's the spectrum as I see it, in table form:

	Implied consent	'Informed'  consent	Informed choice	Informed decision-making
How the dilemma is presented	No choice is offered	Choice is acknowledged but the 'best' choice is pre-determined	A range of pre-selected options, benefits and risks is presented from which you can choose	You determine the range of options to consider and the caregiver helps you get the information needed
Care provider might say...	"Here's what we're going to do" (unless you object).	"You could always select Choice A but we'll be better off with B."	"Which would you prefer, Choice A or Choice B?"	"Would you like to do anything? What do you need to help you decide?"
You might say...	"Okay."	"Well, I guess we'll go for B."	"Hmm."	"I'd like to wait and see."
Relationship between parties	Novice-expert	Liability-insured	Consumer-provider	Partner-equal partner

Studies show that women are most satisfied with the birth of their children when they are most involved in decision-making (and this is a more influential factor even than whether they experience pain) (Hodnett 2002). But involvement in decision-making can take different forms. Some women want to do all their own research and specify each detail. Others prefer to outsource their medical decision-making, along with its associated responsibilities, which can sometimes be heavy. This is also a valid choice, and it can also work well, as long as the outsourcing is itself a considered decision.

What does "choosing well" look like to you?

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"Choose well. Your choice is brief, and yet endless."

--  Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Reference:
Hodnett, Ellen D. "Pain and women's satisfaction with the experience of childbirth: A systematic review". American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology Volume 186 Issue 5 (Supplement) (2002): S160-S172.